Showing posts with label Dear Diary. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Dear Diary. Show all posts

Friday, June 29, 2012

Savor Things

Current list of things I love:

  • The library
  • Choctaw Indians
  • My sweet girl who loves to draw all of a sudden. And by draw, I mean use markers to write on every surface possible. Her hands being her favorite. 
  • Closing the blinds on ridiculously hot days and pretending we are underground. 
  • We are playing music regularly again. 
  • Feeling like I have come out of a haze and all of a sudden Saturn isn't on my shoulders. 

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

....

It's 10:17pm and I'm the only one awake in the house.
Judge is passed out atop our bedclothes
and Lil is snoozing soundly after a day of playing with the cousins.
I have the television on in the background for company though I'm not watching it.

I cannot believe how quickly she is growing up.
I cannot believe how hard my husband works for so little.
I cannot believe how difficult it is to keep a house clean.

I find joy in chasing her around the house; she crawls so efficiently.
When she eats plums I made for her, or manages to say Dada as
she wakes in the morning, looking for him,
or simply gives me a smile, laden with those six astonishing
and knife-like teeth, it breaks my heart.
I think that is what love is -
having your heart broken everyday, over and over.

And he is Kinch, my knifeblade,
always soaring too close to the sun,
stuffed with so much poetry and backwards charm.

I revel in my life with them
because I am the luckiest.
I am nourished in their nighttime sighs.



Tuesday, July 12, 2011

The Heat Is On

The heat has me a bit down. I want to be able to take E and Lil out to a park or to do something active outside, but there's no way in this 100 degree heat. It would be irresponsible. The house is making me a bit mad, I have to admit.

Things are a bit tough at the Joinerhouse. I've been pondering re-entering the workforce (beside the freelance writing) because we need to be able to pay bills. I want to do something part time and I've considered Whole Foods. Anyone out there have any input on the grocery as a company? I know I like shopping there but there's no telling how a big company treats their employees. I know it's probably a better option than most places.

The thought of leaving Lil for even a moment, for the possibility of missing some of her first events or even a small smile slays me. I know most mothers don't get to spend as much time with their little one as I have and I've been at home for almost six months now, but I don't want it to end. It breaks my heart. Yet I know there's no money tree planted outside, no steady freelance gig to keep us going. Judge does all he can and I've got to pick up the slack.

I guess I suppose a part time job won't kill me. It just makes me sad. I've wanted to provide her with the luxury of a mom at home during the early years like mine did for me. I truly had a great childhood, all thanks to her and my father. 

Sorry to be a bummer. Methinks I need some Vitamin D.

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Alabama the Beautiful

My sweet home place, my heart of the South, the little proud and furious and misunderstood state Alabama - I am sorry.

Seeing you left in pieces from Tuscaloosa to Concord to Pleasant Grove to Cullman is unbelievable. The people lost and the matchstick houses are haunting me when I close my eyes. We rode out the storm underground, humidly praying we would be spared the brunt of Mother Nature's force, and our wish came true. We returned to our fifth floor windows to find a clear sky mocking us, slyly evading the horrible truth: our city, our state was busted.

I was upset and moved to tears at my adopted city, Nashville, when it went through the tragedy of last year's flood. I am in shock at it now happening in my home state - after returning from being away so long - I am in awe of the terror inspired by a mile-wide demon who killed and upended lives, and I haven't been able to cry. I watch footage with mouth agape, hear stories of family friends who were killed, see landmarks I know that are nevermore. I was told of a couple who had a 4 or 5-day old child they had just brought home and the tornado hit, ending their happy family. The mother died - leaving this baby unable to ever know her - only to have those first few days - and it finally made me weep. The reality of all of it sunk in: We were all so close to his tragedy, and it could have chosen any one of us.

It skirted my building by a mile or two. It missed my family in Concord by less than that. I feel so lucky, but I feel silly to feel lucky. I am brokenhearted. I am sad for all those who are affected. I am helpless.

For whatever reason, I feel stupid to be writing about this, but I don't know what else to do. I can't stop watching, wishing it would somehow get better instead of worse. I have hugged and hugged my baby girl and given thanks for the bright shining day we had today. I sit in my house with power, with all my things, with all my family, with uncontaminated water and with a roof intact. We are okay. Still, it hurts. It aches because we have been torn apart as a community and as a state.

All those affected by this grand and grotesque event, you are in my thoughts. You are all in my prayers.

I love you, Alabama.

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Mixed Tape of Morning Jams

It's funny - for a while I've been pretty bored with music. Sounds lame, but nothing has really moved me and I've just kept the stereo off. Perhaps it is the growing person inside me wanting a soundtrack or something because I've gone crazy with looking up music that used to bring me to tears or make me move around the room. I can't stop finding videos on You Tube, so I'm just going to catalog some of my favorites here. I look up one song and find another, and then another, and it's been a pretty fun game. These are all pretty sentimental, so please forgive me.



Love this song, Father and Son. Love Loudon Wainwright.



Homeless by Loudon Wainwright III: He's just great. Funny and sad.



In Spite of Ourselves, John Prine & Iris DeMent: This song is just so wonderful, even if it was written for a movie. It reminds me of being at Bean Haven in White Salmon, Washington. This goes out to Elena and Kevin in the sweet little farmhouse.



Brokedown Palace, Grateful Dead: I used to "hate" the Grateful Dead. (I also used to not like Neil Young - just ask Andi Lucia about it.) But I grew up and realized what I was missing due to youthful ignorance.



I Believe in You, Neil Young: After the Gold Rush was the first album of Neil Young's that I got into. It's just flawless - the whole thing. I wish I could meet the man one day.



Columbine, Townes van Zandt: Townes was my college soundtrack, or part of it. When I hear this song I think about being a melancholy, recently emancipated young girl, living alone, writing poetry, believing in everything. And sometimes I miss the idealism of that girl, but I know she's been incorporated somewhere inside me with all the other versions of myself.



The Very Thought of You, Billie Holiday: Her voice is so magical. Except for the drinking and drugs, the woman is my hero. I wish I could sing this distinctively. When you hear Billie, you KNOW it's Billie.



She's a Jar, Wilco: You know, this band can do no wrong with me. There's something about them - I don't know. But I believe that Summerteeth is one of the most underrated albums of all time. It was stolen from my car at one point and I never replaced it. Should have. Would listen to it on repeat right now.



Muzzle of Bees, Wilco: Another one, because I love them so. I LOVE the distorted guitar in this toward the middle. Soooo good.



Hey There Mrs. Lovely, Ryan Adams: Continuing my alternative country jag, here's the poster child. I have always loved this song. I'm not sure who the people are in this video, but this version of the song is the best version. He recorded it later and put it out on an EP but the harmonies on it are pretty terrible, so I want to post this one.



Magnolia, J.J. Cale: He's so fabulous. Our friend Casey told us once he thought he was living in a van in the Opry Mills Mall Parking lot. Whether that was true or not, I could somehow imagine it. I kind of hate what Eric Clapton did to his music, but I'm sure he appreciates the royalty checks.



Manhattan Island Serenade, Leon Russell: Great hair and beard, huh? Another Oklahoma musician. "Messed up inside and it's been raining all day."



Clair de Lune, Debussy, played by Van Cliburn: And some real piano goodness to end this endless mixed tape post of Rachel's nostalgia! I sincerely want to dance around the room with scarves (in a sort of rhythmic gymnast kind of way) when I hear this.

Monday, November 9, 2009

Poesy: Another One of Mine Edition

So, this poem of mine needs work, but I'm going to go on and put it out there. If anyone has any comments, or constructive criticism, go for it. I can't seem to get a writing group together, so I will take feedback wherever I can get it! Enjoy.

Pablo,

Please be waiting for us when the serpent
finally strikes his own tail,
when the last landowner has bought all the land.
I would wish myself there to you already
were it not so terrifyingly beautiful here.
Even as we are present on the edge of the world’s end,
soft sighs of mothers and their incessant televisions
blare. Sweet herons travel over the treetops
and diesel-fueled interstates, going to their nests
in the middle of the river.
I sleep soundly, wrapped in the mantle of my husband’s love
while feral cats take refuge in our bushes,
silent brakes of drug deals hustle across the street.

There is no end to the gruesomeness of humanity.
Wars rage for minerals and the name of a forgotten religion,
and children hunger and die without lament.

Here in the supple southern wind of Tennessee
I see hope in twilight starling afternoons
and the joy of reading your verse.
It quiets the din of debt and expectation,
it feeds the wailing child of anxiety.
Here wrote a man who savored the pomegranate expanse
of the esoteric world, and howled at its injustice.

Make you a galloping steed on the sand,
a triumphant prize fighter with a secret pain,
an orphan alone in the night searching
for the teat of his mother -
Whatever your ether ends up becoming -
I give you the slight twinge in my ankle,
recently sprained, and the flight of a nighttime bird,
the puff of a rainy day mushroom,
and the blood of a thousand American soldiers
that never heard your name.

We will see you at the festival’s end -
and the gray metal birds will bring us home
to a dog, perhaps a plot of land, and a sweet love
to hold us tight.

- RPJ

Saturday, July 11, 2009

Musings on a Saturday













Larry Brown, umcssc


Larry Brown has become a bit of an obsession for me. I've read Joe, On Fire, Billy Ray's Farm, and Facing the Music. I'm now on Fay, and enjoying it thoroughly. I want to watch the movie on him, The Rough South of Larry Brown. Something about his writing reminds me of my father and truthfully, he looks a bit like him too. The tone smacks of home for me.

Reading these books have sparked a few ideas for my own writing as well, and I can't help but hope I'm coming out of a long drought into a productive time. Where Brown speaks of riding around the truck with beers, dogs, sweating in Mississippi, I see coal mines, suburbs, the sprawl taking over the smaller Alabama towns, Church of Christ Sundays, and some sort of neo-South idea of who we are all in this new generation.

Someone recently told me he believed air conditioning revolutionized the South. I think it was the trauma of the 50s and 60s, the Civil Rights wounds, and the death of the small farm. And that none of us are doing better than our parents, which is every generation's hope. We're mired in structures and processes our government tells us that we have to operate in and under. We pay the cable, the power, the insurance, gas up the car, and at the end of the month, we have nothing left. We go to work five days a week and can't catch up. But at least we have a job in times like these, right? That's what you have to think.

My dream is to own a farm with livestock. To be able to do as people used to do. Grow their own vegetables, live their lives away from an urban sprawling commercial trying to feed us foreign-grown food and sell us cheap products. To retreat from what they keep telling me I need. All I need is my family and a place to live.

I just wanted to mention how much I adore this man and his writing. I'm stupid for him and unabashedly so. I hate he died so young and we weren't able to have more from him. Selfish, I know, but I think that if we had met one afternoon, in Oxford, we'd have a good time talking about Blue Mountain, fishing, and maybe we'd even play a song together. And he and Taylor would stand in Proud Larry's side by side and smoke cigarettes.

Monday, July 6, 2009

Psst!

A couple things:

1. I am sad about Steve McNair. It seems stupid. Both because my illusion of him is shattered and that a senseless death has occurred.

2. Ants have invaded my shower, of all places. Why is this?

3. It is cold in my office and I will not stand for it. Window open! (Even if the building maintenance man comes by to tell me it’s not allowed. If it isn’t - help me understand how I’m supposed to operate in SUB ZERO TEMPERATURES.)

4. I’ve been reading a lot of Larry Brown. I am terribly sad that he died so young. And like three months before I discovered his writing.

5. I went to Memphis this weekend and liked it. I spent my time there on a rooftop above the Central station and at the Arcade Restaurant.

6. I received Oxford American’s Best of the South and I am soooooooo excited. It’s always my favorite issue. And how can you beat the cheapest thrills of the South? Priceless. When I grow up, I will write for the OA.

7. I have given up voice mail. I have taken up hot tea with more regularity. No, these are not related, however I would like to find a link just for hilarity’s sake.

8. I am bummed that they have closed the Main Branch library on Mondays. I need to go by there today, but NOOOOOOO they have to cut back due to the economy, even though more people are using the library in these recessional days.

9. I want to go fishing. I want to go to Mississippi. I want to not feel burnt out with the day-to-day. I want to see my grandparents more. I want to learn how to sew. I want to linger. I want my brother to not move to Salt Lake City. I want discipline to become the writer I’ve always envisioned myself as being. I wish I could speak to Fred Bonnie again. Just once.

10. I fear I am blue today.

11. But Guy Clark is helping. Is there a Guy Clark and John Prine station out there where I can listen to them and only them?

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Peaceful


I remember lying in the grass and watching the clouds
Originally uploaded by IrenaS

I went to Shelby Park last night and this image reminds me of the Greenway.

I like to picture people milling about Shelby Park at the turn of the (last) century, a carousel in the distance and paddle boats on the lake.

Sigh.

Happy Summer, all.

Sunday, May 31, 2009

Judge and Cabbage in NYC

A few images from our busy trip to New York City for Book Expo America. It was a grand time.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Dear Diary,

Something happened to me today that makes me sad.

Often, I speak of owning a farm and living away from a city, with sheep and goats and dogs and roosters. I want this farm for the sweet, simple life and the lure of animals all around me.

But today, I want that farm for other reasons. Because I want to run away. Because people upset me and hurt those I love and I am losing faith in humanity. I want to run to the imaginary farm because I think people are downright mean. I think that they are selfish and hurtful.

And I think that I don't like them very much.

However, on the other side, you, dearest of dear readers, are nothing of the sort. You are my faith in humankind, if only because you stop by and amuse me by reading/looking at the inane blog I have here. So never fear - I am not upset with you. In fact, you make my day.

But I feel a bit like a kicked dog, shirking in the corner.

Kicked dogs turn around and bite sometimes. So mean peeps - beware! This redneck girl may just bite right back.

Grrrrrr.

I am just brooding and angry right now. And I had to vent somewhere.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Dear Diary,























Last night we arrived in Roanoke about 2:30am, headed to the Red Roof Inn, and collapsed.

Today, we set out for Philadelphia and the Blinkin' Lincoln. We have about 6 hours of driving.

So far the weather is beautiful and spirits are high.

Saturday, May 2, 2009

Dear Diary,






















We are in the studio with Rob today. Judge shaved a mustache in honor of Mustache May. Here he is charting out a couple songs.






















Willhite shows solidarity and shaved a stache as well.




























Joe gets sounds from the Hammond and the Nord. They both sound gorgeous.




























Where I will sit. The drums are his save for the snare. That puppy is mine and I love it.






















Brett waiting. We will post what we get later - hope everyone has a great weekend!

Friday, April 24, 2009

Starlings & Seeds - a Poem by Cabbage

I wrote two poems recently, and I haven't done that in a really, really long time. One of them I thought I'd share with you.

Starlings and Seeds

If I had my way, our days would only be full
Of starlings and seeds, the two of us
sun-drenched and content with our
Urban farm. The act of making things grow
Charges us both and you pace back and forth
Pulling weeds from the fresh-turned earth.
There comes a point where I simply sit
And watch your obsessively thoughtful pruning
And let the warmth of the day take over.

We have nicknamed the nesting bird “William,”
As he lights on the roof, hops to the gutter,
And shimmies to his hidden home
In the eave of our own. His mouth is full
Of insects and once he arrives inside,
The babies scream in jubilation.
There are no other days than this
That matter, no other way to smell
The earth on my reddened skin,
No other way to feel close to you
Than growing our food in a backyard
with a scarecrow named Ralph
Waldo Emerson and a starling who had
Once inspired Shakespeare.

Sunday, January 25, 2009

Dear Diary,






















Click on the photo above to see something I've always wanted to do since I've discovered the whole "Web 2.0" phenomenon. Flick photo with notes!

Jorjah wrote recently about transparency on blogs. I thought that in the interest of self-disclosure, I'd fashion a moment where I wrote instead of posted images, and I'm going to call it Dear Diary. I'm going to do it when the moment moves me, so it's not going to be a regular installment, but I'm excited about it....And, begin scene:

We had a wonderful weekend. Friday held a birthday party in Madison and Saturday, Judge went to a house party behind Mitchell's Deli and saw Hands Down Eugene, Founding Fathers, and Alcohol Stuntband. I laid low and unfortunately watched the Real Housewives of Orange County.

But I got inspired by Brett and Judge talking about doing a video/advertisement for our Norm's show, and I rearranged our music room. One wall of it is shown in the picture above, and I'm so excited about this interior design coup that I'm sitting in it right now listening to Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me and writing this post. Hopefully we'll film it soon and I'll put it here.

I recently decreased the amount of pictures and paintings I post every day. It was just too much - so I cut my work.

Changing your environment is wonderful. I sit here in the cloud of my triumph and completely enjoy the glow. New digs! First, we fixed the desk in the front room, which I like to call the salon, now, the back office/music room. I really am loving it.

Judge has been recording today. He set up in the salon and posted this song. Fun with Cubase!

Our friend Peter has taken to chopping wood on Shelby in front of his Jones Tree Care truck and chipper and we love it! We're going to start calling him Shelby Jones.

This dog sings better than I do. This dog does too. Ha. I love reading his blog.

I sincerely love doing this blog (although I despise the word blog. You would think they would have come up with something better to describe an intimate voice on the internet). I want to thank everyone who stops by - it means a lot because this place is an outlet that I enjoy. Thanks.







I want to buy this shirt at Mental_Floss.







Please watch this.

That's all I got. For real.

Friday, October 31, 2008

Dear Diary,


Some things:

1. Today is Halloween. Later tonight, I will be Frida Kahlo.

2. The Nashville Scene tells you what to do tonight. I concur, and will take part. I really want to see Powerload, the AC/DC tribute band.

3. Writer's Almanac history of Halloween, or Samhain:

Today is Halloween. Halloween's origins date back about 2,000 years, to the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain. The Celts lived in the cold parts of Northern Europe — in Britain, Ireland, and the north of France — and so for them, the new year began on November 1st, the end of the fall harvest and the beginning of winter. The night before the new year, on October 31st, the division between the world of the living and the world of the dead dissolved, and the dead could come to earth again. This was partly bad and partly good — these spirits would damage crops and cause sickness, but they also helped the Celtic priests, the druids, to tell the future, to make predictions about the coming year. The druids built huge bonfires, and regular people put out their own fires in their homes and crowded together around these fires, where they burned sacrifices for the gods, told each other's fortunes, and dressed in costumes — usually animal skins and heads. At the end of the celebration, they took a piece of the sacred bonfire and relit their own fires at home with this new flame, which was meant to help them stay warm through the long winter ahead.

First the Romans co-opted Samhain and combined it with their festivals, and then the Christians co-opted both the Celtic and Roman celebrations. In the ninth century, the pope decided that these pagan festivals needed to be replaced with a Christian holiday, so he just moved the holiday called All Saints' Day from May 13 to November 1. All Saints' Day was a time for Christians to honor all the saints and martyrs of their religion. The term for All Saints' Day in Middle English was Alholowmesse, or All-hallowmass. This became All-hallows, and so the night before was referred to as All-hallows Eve, and finally, Halloween.

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

I Want A ...


An Equine Sunset - Redux.
Originally uploaded by BamaWester

farm

and a horse

(and mini-horses, because I don't discriminate)

and some goats

and chickens

(don't forget the chickens)

and some cast iron skillets

where I will cook

cornbread, fried chicken, and okra

and a garden

where I will have rows and rows of corn,

lettuce, peppers, okra,

and everything else edible

and my Judge and E-rock

to keep me company

and a Howie dog

and since I can't have him anymore

I want one just like him

to protect the horses,

goats, mini-horses, and chickens,

the Judge and the E-rockness,

and I also want

a rooster to crow

so I will know each morning

that I am alive

and on my farm.

Amen.

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Dogs


OLD SCARS
Originally uploaded by solarixx

I am obsessed with animals. I should have been a vet or a zookeeper, but went a different direction. Besides, I could never deal with suffering animals as my job - so vet would be out of the question.

But this fella - how sad is he? I want to sit beside him and hug him, like I used to do with Howie, and pet his sweet head.

I just read The Story of Edgar Sawtelle by David Wroblewski. (buy it at your local independent bookstore, don't get it from Amazon or Barnes & Noble, please!) It is the best novel I've read in years. It's the best contemporary novel I've read, ever. I'm going to write up a review soon, perhaps tonight.

But everyone should read it. Not because Oprah picked it (which made the man a millionaire, I'm sure) but because it is a truly wonderful tale of a mute boy and his dogs. I didn't want it to end.

And the author is going to be in Nashville this weekend at the Southern Festival of Books. And it's free!

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

As the Birds Fly


the origin
Originally uploaded by Psycho Sagz

I sit with my back to the large window in my office.

The window looks out over Church Street and directly into the face of another old building like the one I work in, and between us is the dance of cars and birds.

When the sunlight fills the window and warms my back, every so often a crowd of birds, swallows, pigeons, black birds, fly past and mark the sunlight with quick, frenzied shadows. It's arresting, glimpsing it from this direction, only their silhouettes tell me they're there, and then gone again.

I never even have to turn around, but see the flights of so many winged creatures diving between the two buildings, perhaps lighting finally on the top of the L&C, or continuing on, across the river and into a tree in some far away yard.

I face forward, waiting for the next incident to grab my attention, waiting on the sun to warm my back.

Friday, September 5, 2008

Day of the Dead


How to Conduct a One-day Conference on Death Education
Originally uploaded by snailbooty

This photo reminds me of the skeletons you always see around the Day of the Dead.

It also reminds me of how Franne makes these doll head art boxes, and she buys baby dolls at thrift stores and flea markets and takes the head off the body and paints them. They're beautiful and creepy - but the creepiest part is when one of her dogs gets ahold of the unused body parts and carry it in their mouths and leave it around her house, sometimes just a leg, or a piece of an action figure, and all of a sudden you're looking at a dismembered baby doll.

But dolls creep me out. Especially the ones with the eyes that open and close when you move them around and sometimes they don't close or open at the same time, so one eye will be all skewed and lazy.

E-rock's not a baby doll kid. She likes her stuffed animals. Good for her, I say. I inherited my cousin Hare's Barbie collection when I was young (she gave it up when she hit middle school, but I was five years younger and a perfect age to want a Barbie Dreamhouse) and I played with it and my brother's GI Joes. They all got buried in the dirt in the backyard just the same, the Barbie's just had hair.

My bro and I had a good time together when we were young (nothing's changed, I just have striking, fond memories of our playtime days) out in the yard, using that famous kiddish imagination we all have at one point in time but lose, and although we went through a rough patch when I was in the terrible junior high phase, we've always been soulmates who can easily talk and confide in each other.

I love you, T-Bro!

This post was brought to you by Beefaroni, the official lunch break nom of Cabbage. Yes, it's kind of ew.